Seeing a positive pregnancy can be a shock, especially when that pregnancy is unplanned. There will no doubt be many thoughts racing through your mind – one of which will probably be “how will I tell my loved ones?”
The most important thing is to remember to breathe and be kind to yourself. Take the time to let the news sink in for yourself.
Then, think about who are the people you want to be involved in the beginning. If the father of the baby is planning to be involved, discuss together who you would like to bring into the conversation in the beginning. It can be helpful, especially in the beginning, to first bring in the people you know will be supportive and kind.
Telling parents about an unplanned pregnancy can be a scary thought. Choose a comfortable place and bring your support system if you feel that will be helpful while you have the conversation.
Be honest. It can be helpful to honestly discuss your feelings – are you nervous, scared, excited? Discuss your feelings, and be receptive to honesty from your family and friends, as well. They may be surprised, but also like you, they may be scared or nervous or excited for you.
They will probably have a lot of questions for you, but it is okay if you don’t have all of the answers yet. Remember that you have the right to share as much, or as little, information as you are comfortable with.
It can be helpful to think through the different types of responses you may get and prepare yourself for how you may react. If things don’t go as well as you had hoped, remember to be easy on yourself, and keep the lines of communication open. Sometimes, receiving news that is surprising can be difficult to digest, and some family members may need some time on their own to think everything through.
Even after talking to family and friends, you may still have a host of questions yourself. At Options for Women, our trained staff and advocates work hard to help you answer all of those questions for yourself by providing you all the information you may need to make informed decisions. But more than that, they are here to provide loving support to you – they will listen to you, comfort you, and offer the support you need to make the necessary decisions about your future.
If you believe you may be pregnant, or if you know you are pregnant but don’t know what to do next, call Options for Women at 863-393-6988.